We all have haters in our lives.
They are the people who do not want us to succeed. They might pretend to care, but they really hope you fail. HATERS may talk about you, make fun of you, or try to talk you out of things that will make you better. Those are your HATERS- people who Have Anger Toward Everyone Reaching Success.
The worst thing about a HATER is that they often masquerade as your friend. They will try to convince you that you are just fine where you are—you don’t need to change. They try to pull you back into bad habits you are leaving behind. HATERS don’t want you to stop drinking, getting high, staying out late, overeating (or whatever you used to do with them) because it challenges them to look at their own lives. They have become complacent and they don’t want to be challenged, so they need you to stay the same.
Change is hard for everyone.
But people who really care about you will be rooting for you and encouraging you to keep getting better. Haters resent anyone who is getting better, stronger, or less dependent. Being determined to change makes them feel insecure. Their insecurities come out as attacks against you and your progress toward your dreams.
You have to know who the HATERS are in your life. HATERS are not a bad thing when you understand why they mock you and try to block your success. It is not about you – it is about them. But if you do not know who they are, they can influence your decisions and cause you to get off track.
Here are 8 sure signs that someone is a HATER in your life:
There is a saying about friendship, “If you want to find out who’s a true friend, screw up, then see who sticks around.” I don’t know who said this originally, but if I had to guess, I’d guess it was either someone who went to prison or a family member of a prisoner.
- They are always negative when you share something new in your life.
- You feel like you have to hide or justify doing something different in your life.
- When they insist that you continue to do the same things you have always done.
- They manipulate you into feeling guilty if you don’t participate with them (going out, drinking, etc.)
- They insult you when you learn something new
- Those who accuse you of being fake, self-centered, or selfish
- They remind you of your past every chance they get
- They get mad when you do something well
Knowing who your HATERS are will equip you to guard yourself against their influence in your life. You do not need to fear them, but you do need to recognize where their antagonistic behavior is coming from. They do not have the power to define you, control you, or hold you back unless you give it to them.
We all have haters. We can either let them become our motivators or give them the power to be our de-valuators. But we are the ones with the choice of who they will be in our lives. Don’t let haters hold you back from reaching your highest potential.
I am rooting for you!
Cathy