I was so shocked that I had become a single mom!
It wasn’t supposed to be this way; I was not supposed to be left alone to raise my boys as a single parent. This left me bewildered, scared, and overwhelmed. Not to mention completely unprepared for this job. I adored my sons and wanted…
Books for prisoners
Books are so important to someone in prison. Whether reading was part of their routine or not, once someone goes to prison they often begin to read, I mean read a lot! So, what are they reading and how do they get books?
Well, the prison library and chapel offer a variety of…
One of the simplest ways to let someone know you care about them is to get them a gift.
Gifts are wonderful for holidays, birthdays, special occasions, or just to lift someone’s spirits during a difficult time. When someone is in prison, sending a gift becomes complicated and confusing. People often ask questions like, “What…
Friendships that last
There is a saying about friendship, “If you want to find out who’s a true friend, screw up, then see who sticks around.” I don’t know who said this originally, but if I had to guess, I’d guess it was either someone who went to prison or a family member of a…
When Daddy goes to prison, everything changes
And nothing will ever be the same again. This is especially true for children who lived with their father before prison. Suddenly, every encounter they have with Daddy (prison visits, phone calls, or letters) includes an emotional goodbye.
Goodbyes are hard. They remind us we are parting, each…
I sat staring at the small stain in the carpet where Ron had dropped a Sharpie just days before.
It now seemed like a different world already. It was a world where Ron lived with us and we had “normal” problems - like dropped markers, spilled milk, bills to pay, and boys to raise. I…
It is so amazing to me how much people take talking for granted.
How much I used to take it for granted. I love to talk. I talk to people, with people, at people, and I have even been known to talk to myself. It never occurred to me that there would come a day…
You might be surprised that I am actually talking about the impact of prison on sex.
No one really talks about how prison drastically affects intimacy. When Ron went to prison there was one important part of our relationship that stopped. Sex. Naturally, sex had been an important part of our relationship, but it wasn’t…
The question of staying or leaving a man who is in prison is one I hear often
And one I had to wrestle with when Ron went to prison. The pain of the separation, the social prejudice, and the painful memories of trust betrayed all make a compelling case to leave. And yet, you are…
I can remember the day Ron went to jail so vividly!
We woke up that morning and got ready for the day, just like any other day. We showered, brushed our teeth, got dressed, ate breakfast, and even had a small disagreement about a wet towel on the floor. As far as the boys knew,…