Life is hard. Especially with all the crazy twists and turns that just get thrown at you with no warning at all. But the good news is that life will get better. Just because you might be hating life right now doesn’t mean you will forever.
Here are six reasons why you might hate life and how to change that:
- Aren’t living life for yourself. When you are constantly seeking approval and caring about what others think you aren’t living for yourself. You are living for the approval of others, you are carrying out someone else’s idea of how to live. That is no way to live. To live the life you want, separate your point of view and others/society’s point of view. Live life for yourself, not others.
- Negative perspective on life. When you experience a setback, you think you’ll never succeed, when you don’t get something on the first try you just give up, or when you won’t even try something new because you are scared you will fail. These are all negative perspectives. If you keep telling yourself stuff like this you’ll continue to live a negative life and continue hating life. Challenge the voice inside your head. Try new things and never stop. Continue to challenge yourself, the only person stopping you is you.
- All-or-nothing attitude. This is when you see yourself and life’s situations as either good or bad with absolutely no in-between. When something goes wrong or you make a mistake, it is the worst thing ever and your life is over. With this type of attitude, you will hate life. You need to learn to find the silver lining in every situation. If something goes wrong remember there is only so much you can control and look at the positives. Life isn’t just black and white.
- Low self-esteem. Negative thoughts about yourself impact how you feel about life. If you are unhappy with yourself and constantly tearing yourself down, that will carry over into your life. When feeling down, try doing something that makes you feel good or try to spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself.
- Trying to fit in. It can be draining, always trying to fit in. You may feel like an outsider always trying to change who you are so you can “fit in”. Stop trying to fit in. If you don’t fit in with the crowd you hang out with, maybe it is time to reevaluate. You shouldn’t have to change who you are. You were born to stand out, so don’t try to fit in.
- Taking criticism personally. DTIP: Don’t take it personal! If someone offers you criticism, do not take it personal. It is nothing against you personally, so you can’t take what was said to heart. Most of the time what people are saying to you has nothing to do with the person you are. It is easier said than done, not taking criticism personally, but just keep reminding yourself DTIP!