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How to be Confident


At some point in your life, we’re sure you’ve been told, “Hey, just be confident.” But as many of us know, it’s really just not that simple. Being confident isn’t always something we can turn on or off like a light switch. However, that doesn’t mean it isn’t something we can teach ourselves. It’s something we have to work on, and it takes time too. So if you’re willing to put in the work, keep reading and we’ll teach you how to become the self-confident leader you were meant to be.

Face your fears:

Arguably one of the toughest ones on this list, which is why it’s at the top. Facing your fears is a crucial way in becoming confident. Fears, simply put, are limitations in your life. We often develop fears either from overthinking or past experiences. They hold us back from doing things that we really want to do because we’re worried about what will happen. You can’t let your fears control your life.

How to do it: Try doing something that scares you regularly. This can mean once a day or once a week, once a month, etc. Exposing yourself to a situation that you’re not comfortable in helps you confront your fears, head-on. In time, you’ll see how these fears have held you back and you will become less afraid while watching your confidence skyrocket.


Be nice to yourself:

This might sound like us telling you, “Hey, just be confident,” but, it’s a little more straightforward than that. You’re capable of being positive and kind to yourself every day. Being kind to yourself is like receiving a compliment, except, in this case, you don’t need someone else to give it to you. You’re teaching yourself self-sufficient positivity.

How to do it: Much like facing your fears, practice being nice to yourself regularly. Although, for this one, shoot for doing it once a day at least. Once a day, look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself a compliment. When you’re about to do something, tell yourself that you’ve got this. Little things like this will add up over time and you will come out on the other side more confident.

Stop comparing yourself:

Realistically speaking, there is always going to be someone who is better off than you, just like there will always be someone who is worse off. EVERYBODY HAS THEIR OWN LIFE. So don’t be ashamed of yours. Don’t look at the things someone else has that you don’t. Instead, look at the things you have and be thankful for them.

How to do it: There are a couple ways to go about this one. The first one is to heavily monitor your time online. More specifically, don’t spend too much time on social media. Social media is a great way to stay connected with people, but it’s also a great way to get inside of your own head. When you’re looking at someone’s social media, you’re seeing their highlights, and what they’re comfortable sharing, not what they may be going through behind the scenes. Another approach is to practice being happy for others. Instead of looking at them at going, “I wish I had their life,” try saying, “Wow, good for them!” Its little things like this, just like being nice to yourself that add up and help shape your attitude for the future.

No more excuses:

Repeat this for yourself, “I will not make any more excuses.” Excuses are very similar to fears in the sense that they are holding you back from being the person you want to be. They are you telling yourself why you can’t achieve your goals, or why you can’t do something you want to do. They’re barricades in your life that you need to break down. We all make excuses, but sometimes we get into the habit of doing it. Well, not anymore.

How to do it: The first step is to recognize when you’re making an excuse. Make it a habit to call yourself out when you make excuses. You can even have a friend help you by having them do the same. Nobody likes being called out, but it will help you realize when you’re doing something wrong. The more you catch yourself making excuses, the more you will realize how it’s holding you back from being confident.

Confident people don’t make excuses, confident people do what they set their mind to. You’re a warrior, you’re strong, you’re smart, and you’re focused. YOU GOT THIS!