Is there help out there?
One of the biggest financial burdens you will carry when your husband is in prison is legal fees. If you are already struggling financially, it is even more stressful to try to come up with the funds to pay an attorney to help you. The good news is that there…
Your partner is in prison. Now what?
Sex. That one word is such an attention-grabber. Sex is a big deal in relationships. It can add deeper intimacy and connection, or it can create division and distance between you and your partner. When your husband is home, you get to decide together everything there is to…
Here are things you need to know to help them grow
Raising children who have a parent in prison can be a challenge. They are just like every other child their age. And they are very different from other children their age. Moreover, is important to recognize both of these facts. Children with a parent…
Stereotypes affect all of us.
Others stereotype us, and then we apply stereotypes to them. It is a natural way of our brains trying to put things into categories. Is the attempt to make a connection between things we know and things we do not know good or bad?
I have spent over 20 years fighting…
Simple things you can do to protect yourself and your marriage
There is nothing that will test your level of commitment to each other like a prison sentence. Your entire marriage and relationship has changed. Living our your commitment to each other by being faithful is one of the biggest challenges women face when their…
Research tells us that sons need a father in their lives.
The negative effects of father absence include a whole host of terrible outcomes for young boys. Just hearing these statistics causes fear to rise up inside of us. We know all too well that our sons are growing up without their fathers.
I sat in…
He stepped onto the grass outside the prison...
The day Jose came home he was feeling nervo-cited—both nervous and excited at the same time. He had looked forward to his freedom for so long. His wife and children had stayed connected to him so he was wondering why he was feeling so nervous. The first…
We all want a strong relationship.
We dream of being supported, loved, admired, cherished, and respected by our partner. Fun, excitement, and adventure are all important to us as well. We want to be swept off our feet; but on our terms. Most likely, we are not getting everything we hope for from…
Your husband is sentenced to prison.
This reality is played out, every minute of every day you live on the outside without him. A married woman who lives like a single woman is a strange thing indeed. One of the most common questions I get is whether it is actually cheating on your husband if…
Overcoming loneliness
Loneliness is one of the hardest parts of having a husband who is in prison. Weekdays go by quickly because we are focused and busy working. But Friday night comes, and the pain of being alone settles on us.
I heard a quote that sums up what it is like to be married to…